Thursday, August 8, 2024

9 THE STAR FEATURE • Thursday, August 8, 2024 @JamaicaStar www.facebook.com/JamaicaStar • www.jamaica-star.com Do you have a problem? Is something bothering you? Write to Tell Me Pastor, Dr Aaron Dumas, PO Box 188, King Street, Kingston. Tel: 876-929-1667-8; email: pastor@jamaica-star.com and dumas.dearpastor@gmail.com Dear Pastor, I am 19 years old and I am pregnant. My pregnancy was not planned, but I do not regret becoming pregnant. My boyfriend and I were planning to get married in December, and hoping that I would get pregnant soon after our wedding. The pregnancy happened due to our carelessness. My mother-in-law told my fiancé that he shouldn’t marry any woman unless he was able to get her pregnant. That is because her brother got married to a woman, and after more than three years he has not been able to get her pregnant. My fiancé never told me that his mother gave him that advice. So when I missed my period and I asked him what we were going to do, he was surprised. He asked me what kind of question was that. He and I went out for the weekend on my 19th birthday. We stayed at a hotel. We did not have protection and after making love a couple of times for the night, we did not wake up until late the following morning. We did not want to go out to buy the morning- after Pill. That is why I ended up getting pregnant. His mother is elated that I am pregnant. I am expecting to have a girl and she has even been giving me names that I should give to my daughter. We have changed the date of our wedding. I would want to have a flat tummy and to look beautiful in my wedding gown. My boyfriend is 35 years old and he has two children from a previous relationship – a boy and a girl, and he wants both children to be there at the wedding. He has asked me if their mother could also attend. I have nothing against that because she is now married and her husband could accompany her. My boyfriend told his mother that his children’s mother will be attending the wedding, but she told him that he should not invite her. What do you think about that? J.R. Dear J.R., Why is your fiancé inviting the mother of his children to the wedding? Is it for convenience? Is it because he wants to make sure that somebody will take the children to the wedding and be responsible for them during and after the ceremony and reception? As far as you are concerned, the re lat ionship between this man and his children’s mother is dead. But his mother probably considers that it is disrespectful to you to see this woman at your wedding. Perhaps she is correct. However, I would say to you, do not make an issue over the matter. Let him work that out with his mother. You know that your future husband and this woman are no longer lovers. So I repeat, don’t make that an issue. Pastor “My boyfriend told his mother that his children’s mother will be attending the wedding, but she told him that he should not invite her.” OUR WEDDING Fiancé inviting his babymother to